Fertility Charting and Birth Control – Not Quite the Same Thing

I think it’s so funny how you can read in one place that “Fertility Awareness is hardly an effective way to plan families, as it fails 25% of the time” and yet in another place you can read “It’s 99.999% effective and the best thing since sliced bread.” (Both are an extreme end of the spectrum.)

Tis’ very difficult, my dear readers, to compare FAM to much of any other kind of birth control. I used to think I could – I touted its effectiveness (always with the attached disclaimer **if practiced correctly), exclaimed that FAM users have no less sex, in some studies, even more sex than artificial contraception users, and that it created a better relationship in terms of communication and love.

But I’ve been coming to the realization over the last few months – no matter what the church says, no matter what your midwife says, no matter what your cousin’s boyfriend’s roommate’s girlfriend says, fertility charting is one thing and one thing only – knowledge. What you decide to do with that knowledge is 100% up to you.

Yea, it’s supposed to be effective at preventing pregnancy if you make certain choices in regard to certain knowledge. Yes you could very well have more sex than a user of artificial contraception – if you make that choice. Yes, FAM can create a stronger bond between a couple and increase communication – if you make that choice. But FAM isn’t going to make those decisions for you.

For me, fertility charting just makes clear, common sense. You have a clue in on what’s going on with your health, you become intimate with the tempo of your body, and I don’t care what anyone says, my cycle affects my mood, disposition, and emotions. So much light was shed on this for me because of charting! I like it because it is basic knowledge about my body and health. Knowledge and that’s it.

Who would I promote fertility charting to? Any menstruating female. Period. (pun intended) Who would I promote fertility charting to as a sole method of birth control? Those that have the desire to do so.

FAM doesn’t “work”. YOU do the work for it to “work”. And that puts it entirely in its own category. People talk of fertility charting as a lifestyle rather than a birth control option and it’s true. It’s not a pill you take every day or an IUD sitting in your uterus that you most likely don’t think about on a regular basis. (Not method bashing, just saying they are inherently different!) FAM is something you’re pretty much constantly thinking of. Ok not constantly, but you’re always aware of it, it’s something you physically write down or record every morning and every night. If you are using it for family planning, you are constantly making choices day to day. And instead of changing your body to be something you want, it’s working with your body.

This feels very counter-intuitive to our culture. We control our bodies more often than not, such as dieting, dying our hair, and waxing our eyebrows. (Hey, I’m Italian, I know about the eyebrow bit!) We like to tell our body how to be. Charting requires, instead, letting your body be and working with that.

Fertility knowledge is one thing – family planning is another. And fertility charting for family planning is its own category apart from other methods as well, for the very nature of letting the body rule instead of ruling the body.

So in conclusion, FAM isn’t quite synonymous with other contraception. It’s simply knowledge. I always chuckle when someone lumps it into “birth control” options. I mean it simplifies the conversation, and I get it. Even I, myself talk about FAM as if it could sit on a shelf right next to the Nuvaring. But it would seem a bit more accurate to put “phase 2 abstinence” or “phase 2 only barrier sex” into the birth control selection. Otherwise fertility charting has nothing to do with controlling birth.

5 responses to “Fertility Charting and Birth Control – Not Quite the Same Thing

    • I love to talk about my Italian heritage – even though I’ve never even been to Italy! (One day…one day) I’ve been on a kick lately with FAM posts…thanks for sharing :)

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