Sometimes, I get caught up reading things. There’s a lot of varying discussions out there on NFP.
#1 “It worked great for us! We had 3 planned children, and have been using it for 18 years!”
#2 “After following the rules to a tee, we had 3 unplanned babies in 3 years. I was off for a vasectomy after that.”
#3 “We struggled with it, and have had 1 planned child and 3 oops. I’ve lost faith in it and am looking into an IUD.”
I’d love to know, because I don’t know and can’t seem to get an answer. I obviously can’t speak from personal experience. For those women that “follow the rules to a tee” and have multiple pregnancies while TTA – what happens? Are they just super fertile? What phase were they in? How many of these are “misreading a chart” and how many are truly method “failures” (I do hate to use the word failure in this context, but can’t think of a better way to put it. So I do apologize.) How often do true method “failures” happen? And when do they occur? How do they occur? (I assume phase 1, but I have heard of a woman that had a phase 3 complete surprise oops baby, talk about a miracle. She said her charting teachers were completely dumbfounded.)
I think genetics and different bodies determine how “easy” or “hard” NFP charting can be. Obviously, some women have pretty regular cycles with obvious fertility patterns. Other women are wildly unpredictable, with temperatures jumping all over the place. But even still, how do you follow the rules and have it happen three times?
And I’m aware, from a Catholic standpoint, a “failure” is not a failure, as we are called to be open to life. I’m sort of coming from a more secular standpoint in this post. A biological, scientific standpoint. I would like to know, biologically, what is the difference between woman #1, woman #2, and woman #3? How is it that NFP can be so radically successful for some women, and so completely on the other end of the spectrum, unsuccessful for others? Anyone? Bueller? Bueller?
Join the discussion here, cuz I wanna converse! I’m curious and confused.